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Women in the Workforce!

                Even in today’s times we can’t deny that women in the workplace get discriminated against. I have seen it many times in various places I have worked. The most recent being in a after school program that I worked at. Even though our site coordinator knew what she was doing and done her job very well, the higher up men were always hounding her on different things. I think a lot of times they hounded her just to be total jerks really. I feel like women also don’t receive the same pay as men in some workplaces. Other male site coordinators were making considerably more and had less experience. I feel that out right refusal of jobs just based on your gender happens more frequently than we think. It makes me wonder why they even but the non-discriminatory phrase on each application. It seems like a waste of time and is mainly a lie. Because it is illegal to discriminate I believe different firms and businesses find ways around this to get there point across.  I feel there needs to be a change within the work systems of todays. Men and women should be paid on the same pay scale and also get the chance to have the same type of jobs. Most think that women can’t do as much as men and that is very UN true. I’ve seen plenty of women that can work on cars and fix anything you put in front of them.  After noticing the difference that the lady I worked with got as far as treatment I feel both men and women should get the same treatment in the workplace.  I’ve heard some say that men now seem inferior to women in the workplace but I find this hard to believe after seeing it personally so many times.  Statistics say that women earn a little over 15% less a week than men earn and I see that as a probably. Men are not that much inferior over women so much that they make that percentage of money over them. There needs to be an immediate change in the workforce. I’m not exactly sure what the answer his but there has to be one out there. If people would just be a little more considerate I think that would be a good start.

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/gender-discrimination-in-the-workplace.html

 

Blake Hopson WMST 005

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Sheryl Sandberg Opens the eyes of women worldwide

My senior year of high school, my coincidentally all female Honors English class read a book by Sheryl Sandberg called Lean In. She addresses many different issues pertaining to women and day-to-day situations women have to go through. She believes the women should “lean in” to their careers. The book has been criticized for many different reasons. Nicola Kemp writes “Women and the Will to Lead has prompted a wave of criticism, but highlights the blurring highlights between public and private endeavor”. Sandberg’s approach to these issues of women’s role in society is more of a reproach than an encouragement. She tells women what they do wrong instead of giving excuses for why they do. She thinks women should assert themselves at work and at home.

The book has been “slammed” by Maureen Dowd, Jodi Kantor, Judith Shulevitz and others for its “elitism”, or being “hard on women and soft on institutional sexism”, and for making an “unfair exemplar of the 43-year-old Sandberg’s own Amazonian accomplishments”. Although critics think the story is boring, they still think it is a really good read. They agree with most the things Sandberg says in the story such as the fact that women denigrate themselves to be liked. Instead of abruptly asking a question, most women politely raise their hand while their male counterparts assert themselves and do not raise their hands.

Another issue addressed in Sandberg’s book is the presence of women in the workplace. She says women are not achieving their full potential because they cut themselves out of leadership positions in the workforce. Men always look for way to climb their way to the top of a business while a woman sits back and allows her to be run over by other people willing to take a stance in business.  Sandberg does not take a radical approach to the subject; she makes a call to action for women to step up and take the opportunities that men take on a daily basis. A woman with the exact same education level as a male has the same opportunity, but the male is more likely to take the initiative to get the job while the woman makes excuses as to why she will not take the job. The most common excuses are “I do not have time”, “I’m not qualified enough”, “I don’t deserve the opportunity “, etc. While a male does not make excuses as to why he will not get the job. He brags about all his achievements and boast on all the reasons why he will get the job.

Sandberg also confronts a woman role at home. She believes that a couple should share responsibilities in the home. Society sees a woman’s role at home as someone who cooks, cleans, and makes sure everything in the home runs smoothly while the man works and comes home to a warm meal and a clean house. Sandberg disagrees with society views. She believes women need to take charge and sit down with their partner on a weekly basis and sort out who is going to do what during the week.  That way, the roles can be equal.

Sandberg finishes her book by telling women that they can change it. We have to stand up and take control of what we do and how others treat us in society. Instead of sitting back and getting ran over, women need to take what they want just like men do. A woman’s need to be liked stops her from taking the bull by the horns and taking what she wants. Several ways exist to change how a woman is perceived. Women need to stop worrying about what other people think and do what makes them happy.

Early feminists believed in forging a new frontier and a new identity for women in society. Throughout history men have taken the lead in building America while women stand in the background. Women’s role in the building of America is small but still existent. While men were off in war, women stayed behind and continued maintaining America and helping it to grow prosperous. Upon the men’s return, women were back to being ignored professionally, socially, or politically.

                Many American women have made an effort to change the view of women in society. These women include Abigail Adams, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Susan B. Anthony, and Edna St. Vincent Millay. These women have organized conventions and broke the boundaries for women in America. If these women did not do the things they did, women today may not have as many rights, if any, today.

http://ideas.time.com/2013/03/07/why-i-want-women-to-lean-in/

 

Maranda Fleenor

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Domestic Violence

A couple weeks ago we discussed the article “Betrayed by the Angel: What happens when Violence Knocks and Politeness Answers.” In this article, Debra Davis, shares her personal story about sexual assault and her struggle with politeness. Even in the midst of being raped, this woman didn’t understand how to be impolite to her attacker. Instead, she flirted with the attacker because she learned that flirting can get people to like you or do things for you. She also states that she didn’t understand why he deserved “decades in jail” for what he did to her. The feelings this poor woman faced is a common struggle in our society. Women aren’t taught to fight back or be impolite. Instead, women are taught the opposite. We’re taught to be obedient, grateful, polite, kind, and pretty. None of these skills could ever prepare us for a real world, dangerous encounter and we face the possibility of ending up in a situation like Debra Davis’s.

I chose this article to write about because one of my very best friends lived through a similar experience and dealt with the same emotions. Growing up, my friend Kate was forced to live at various aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents houses. Both of her parents dealt with strong drug and alcohol addictions. I knew she never liked staying at her uncle “Larry’s” house but it was just recently that I found out why. While telling her story of repeatedly being sexually assaulted, she kept asking me what SHE did wrong. Why did she deserve this? Why did he hate her enough to do this? In reality, she did nothing wrong, but it was impossible for her to see it that way. She kept this secret hidden for many years because she felt like she was the cause of her actions and she deserved what happened to her. He made her believe that various things she did caused him to do this to her. For example, one time he told her that the reason this was happening was because she didn’t finish her chores on time. The reason she allowed this to happen for so many years was because he told her she would “ruin” or “break up” the family. 

Why does this happen to so many young girls in America? Why aren’t we teaching young girls to stick up for themselves and defend themselves? Why do so many girls feel the same feelings that Kate and Debra Davis felt? Why do we automatically blame ourselves? So many questions can be raised. Every answer boils down to the way women are still looked at and the way we teach them to behave. We have to stop teaching our young girls to be afraid and quiet and nice. We need to teach them qualities like bravery and self-confidence so women feel okay about speaking up for themselves. 

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Questions such as “am I being abused,” “did I deserve it” or “am I overreacting” should not be asked in 2013. It is somewhat baffling to acknowledge the fact that women are still taught to not know when they are being abused. In the twenty-first century, how can women not feel entitled to feel safe and secure mentally, emotionally, economically, and physically?  I have to admit that my white privilege may encourage me to feel more entitled to these, what I consider basic, human rights. However, since most of us were trained to not label any act of aggression as “violence” short of being physically hit and even then it was questionable we are left with a basic, but important question: what is violence?

Violence is anything that hinders you, in any way, from doing all you can possibly do. With this definition, we are left with a completely different perspective on violence. If we take away the traditional meaning of violence and replace it with this more all-encompassing one, it allows people to recognize that their “unfortunate” situation that is not “really that bad” is truly a form of violence.

For example, economic abuse is often ignored, because the out dated definition of violence does not include financial abuse. A woman can be systematically forced to depend on her husband to earn the majority of the family’s income. Thus, the husband can singularly control the money and give his wife a limited “allowance” which controls her monetary freedom impending her ability to fully participate in the consumer market.

However, economic violence usually happens unnoticed or not recognized. Violence seems to happen slowly. It is overlooked. It is like the metaphor of putting a frog in a cold pot of water and allowing the water to slowly come to a boil. In the narrative, the frog will never try to escape, because by the time it realizes that there is something wrong with the water, the frog is dead. In the YouTube video below, Lily Myers explains how she realized that the water was getting hot before it turned into a boil.

http://youtu.be/zQucWXWXp3k

During this poem, Lily explains generational psychological violence. She is so mistreated that she cannot even feel deserving enough to ask a few questions during class. Her mother does not believe she deserves food and feels guilty for eating plain yogurt. This is violence. Lily and her mother are constantly being held back from success, because they are too worried about absorbing their sorrows and shrinking their bodies.

Violence is more than just being physically beaten. It is a widespread phenomenon that is often ignored or dismissed as being drama or otherwise someone simply overreacting. Failure to realize that violence is constantly being experienced in all different forms may cause women to merely continue with the invalid violence they experience. Invalidating all non-physical forms of violence only validates the abuser’s power.

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Miss Representation

Media has a very powerful influence on society especially women. In the Miss Representation documentary they stress how media sets the standards for how women should look like. Advertisements play a big in this because they create “perfect” looking images of women after it has been Photoshop to target a specific person to make them feel insecure about how they look like. By doing that it will persuade audiences like us to want to but their product that they’re selling to make us look as pretty as the model that they have on display. According to a YouTube clip attached to this blog, it states that the average “attractiveness messages” are seen over 5,260 per year. The more media expresses how women should look like, the chancing of women buying that idea increases. All that will cause women as teens to never be satisfied about their looks because the ideal look changes every time. Why does it change? Because it is all part of the marketing idea, for a company to make money they have to constantly change their perception of style and beauty everyday. Media support these marketing advertisements because according to the documentary, M. Gigi Durham mentioned that because it is media earns their revenue from advertisements so they have to support whatever is being advertised. This is why we don’t see the message about “being who you are is really what true beauty is” because no one is paying the media to do that. No one is making products to make you look like you. An important point that a woman made towards the end in the YouTube clip was that the more she didn’t allow media influence her, the easier it was for her to believe that she has a great body image. More women should pay less attention to the media go with whatever style they like to be confident.

Link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTDaeR3eWxA

Personal:
When I was a teen models in the magazines never influenced me because I didn’t read magazines. But I watched American Next Top Model and it influenced me to put on make-up and wanting to be skinny to feel pretty. But I didn’t go to the extent where I starve myself because I love food, so I knew I wouldn’t be able to meet that beauty trend. I knew that the girls were Photoshop in their pictures when Tyra Banks was critiquing their photos. It was obvious to me because the lighting and the girls in the photos looked different. They made the girl look skinnier and her make-up looked more dramatic in the photo than it was when they were shooting. Whenever I go shopping I bought clothes I liked, I’m not into fashion so I buy clothes that will make me feel comfortable around other people. Besides America’s Next Top Model I don’t think the media controlled me on how I should look. As long as I felt comfortable with what I wear and how I look , I’m fine.

To sum this blog up, media can set standards for how women should look like because they support whomever that’s paying them. It’s their job to make you feel vulnerable so you’ll buy their products. We as women have the power to control what is right for us. Just like the point I made earlier if we don’t expose ourselves to the media as much then we would feel so much better about ourselves.

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