The Double Standard My Ass!

Of course everyone has heard of the double standard where it’s acceptable for a man to sleep with whomever he pleases. Usually, the more the merrier. However, with women having the opposite expectation, I purposely choose to do the opposite. Call me what you want, but dammit I’m going to get mine! Let’s start with how men sleep with so many women and are called “sex gods”. Please! Majority of time women end up with so many sex partners because their previous sex partner sucked and didn’t know what he as doing. Yes, that was my situation. My father is one of those “man-whores”. After he and my step-mother divorced, he went on a female binge that included women only two years old then me at the time when i was 18. He would bring home women and ask my opinion of them. No matter what I would say, he would sleep with them later that night. It was a different woman every night, and he would rotate them. Now, if i were to do this only heaven knows what kind of names I would be called. I think it’s complete bullsh*t that men can get away with this. I asked him one year how he thinks I feel that I see him with all these women and how he constantly uses them. What would he do if a man did that to me? He responded with, “You aren’t dumb like these women are”.

Story of my life…

 

 

Ashley Craft

Pregnancy in the workplace

First I would like to talk about how the workplace views pregnancy. Pregnancy is typically frowned open in the workplace. Most employers would prefer for their employees to not be pregnant. It is very popular for women to be fired or on unpaid leave when they become pregnant. This is another way women are oppressed. It is hard enough for women to find jobs and to get pregnant and be fired is not only stressful but it is also discriminatory. However it is not against the law which it should be. There are no laws stating that the employer had to accommodate a pregnant woman without a doctor’s excuse. This is ridiculous. The second and most important thing I would like to discuss would be breastfeeding. Most jobs do not accommodate a woman who is breastfeeding. There are no designated places for a woman to breastfeed. ETSU just recently designated a place however I’ve noticed there are no changing stations in the bathroom. But that is neither here or there. Point is woman are limited to specific lines of work during pregnancy and if a woman is a breastfeeding they would probably have to cut their breaks and lunch short to pump bottles. This is oppressing women because once again it limits their opportunities. Employers are basically making a woman chose between breastfeeding and work. It is nearly impossible for a woman to continue to breastfeed while maintaining a full-time job. There are disability laws to accommodate pregnant women but there are no laws to accommodate breastfeeding mothers. There needs to be a designated area for breastfeeding mothers and this can be done without harming the company. This would be a huge step for woman. The designated area should be secure and made comfortable for women. Since paternity leave in most workplaces is only six weeks and most woman breastfeed longer than six weeks, makes a woman chose between returning to work or breastfeeding.  Oppression toward woman is very typical and a lot of people do not realize how the workplace plays a role on that oppression. This issue needs to be addressed and there should be laws out their protecting breastfeeding mothers. I was actually laid off due to my pregnancy and there was no way around it. My employer came up with this BS compliant and used it to fire me. I could not collect unemployment and I was left to dry. A change must be made and it must be made quickly. Women should have the luxury of being mothers and employees.

By:Nicole Peck

If Men Had a Time of the Month

While reading Gloria Steinem’s piece If Men Could Menstruate I couldn’t help but almost laugh at the truth behind it. Upon reading the sentence “Male human beings have built whole cultures around the idea that penis-envy is ‘natural’ to women” (238). I almost shouted in agreement. Even the phrase “have some balls” is used to mean to have courage or strength when in reality it’s the most vulnerable part of a male’s body. Male genitalia is seen as superior over female’s. However, in Steinem’s piece we get to think about if the roles of genitalia were reversed. Before I even read the next paragraph I already felt like I could see where this was going; I was right. “Menstruation would become an enviable, boast-worthy, masculine event: Men would brag about how long and how much. Boys would mark the onset of menses, the longed-for proof of manhood, with religious ritual and stag parties” (238). How sanitary supplies would be federally funded and free; a topic I had thought myself before reading this piece. 

An article I found talked about another side of the story. How for women, our menstruation is seen as disgusting and dirty and makes women feel even more insecure of their bodies. A girl in the article says,  “Anytime I talk about my period, I feel the need to begin with, ‘I’m sorry to bring this up…’ or ‘I’m sorry if this grosses you out, but…’ Why do I (and other women) feel the need to apologize for being women?” From movies and our own peers we constantly here jokes about periods. If a girl is having a normal emotional reaction to something there is a joke made “Whoa, she must be on her period.” It becomes learned that menstruation is something that makes women inferior and gross. Yashar says this is all because males associate the vagina with one thing only: sex. It’s the feeling of being unsupported and like women should be ashamed that caused the attitude from males about menstruation. 

Also, final thoughts, why is it the end of the world to ask men to pick up sanitary supplies? A woman in the article was sick with the flu and couldn’t get out of bed, but when she asked her boyfriend to pick her up some tampons he said “anything but that.” When we buy tampons or pads the cashier always gives you uncomfortable looks, but if you’re a male what’s the problem? We all know they’re not for you. 

Julia Russo (Sec. 007)

Sexism and the Christian Religion

I have noticed several previous posts discuss the relationship between religion and women, covering topics from Mary to female sexuality. I want to preface this post by stating that I consider myself a Christian and somewhat a feminist; however, these roles often seem at odds with each other. This is why I believe it is vital to scrutinize religious groups, practices, and texts, such as this post and previous ones have done.

In September a Catholic fringe group called Fix the Family released a blog post and video entitled “6 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College.” The group later added two reasons “just in case 6 weren’t enough.” Here are a few of the post’s highlights:

Reason 1: “She will attract the wrong types of men. I share the common concern addressed to us, again mainly by angry women, that there are so many lazy men in our society […] those lazy men who are looking for a mother-figure in a wife are very attracted to this responsible, organized, smart woman who has it all together along with a steady paying job with benefits.”  – – Oh yes, because the “right” types of men only want uneducated women who are financially dependent upon them. And women should dumb themselves down for fear of being taken advantage of. This clearly makes sense.

Reason 2: “She will be in a near occasion of sin. […] Is a degree worth the loss of your daughter’s purity, dignity, and soul?” – – Your daughter’s purity, etc. is of your concern, not hers. Don’t trust her with it or to make her own decisions. What about your son? Ehh, he can do whatever.

Reason 3: “She will not learn to be a wife and mother. Nothing that is taught in a college curriculum is geared toward domestic homemaking. On the contrary, it is training in a very masculine role of a professional career.” – – Serving men and having children should be the first concern for your daughter…and professional women don’t make good wives and mothers? Yeah, okay.

You can view Fix the Family’s full blog post here. 

As you can probably guess, the blog post offended many (including myself). I have a daughter and cannot imagine forcing these viewpoints on her. The Huffington Post and the International Business Times are some examples of media that critiqued the group.

It is important to note that Fix the Family is in fact a fringe group, and cannot be wholly representative of Catholicism. But as much as many of us would like to write this group off as some extremist population because of how preposterous their viewpoints seem, there is some support in the Christian faith for their sexist ideals. I first realized this when I heard my father tell my stepmother that she had to listen to him because the Bible said so. He was referring to Ephesians 5:22, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” Many other similar verses exist in the Bible. For example, 1Timothy 2:12 where St. Paul says, “I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, she must be silent.” This particular verse has been used to justify the objection to female priests.

I didn’t think it was right when I heard my father utter those words, and I still don’t believe it is after reading the scripture. In short, it seems as though Christianity and feminism never have gone well together. One can only hope that such antiquated ideas will be left out of modern day religions.

Steven Kuhn 2010-002

Center Stage Sexism

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The Society in which we live in tries to keep women bound to their traditional expectations and roles by many means. Many are subtle and many are quite in your face, which the latter is the category in which the topic I wish to address to you lies. I wish to speak to you regarding the “feminization” that takes place on the stage before us: the audience. From the traditional beauty pageant to the mainstream competitions of image, we find that women are pushed to be feminized at most stages of their lives.

Oh… a pageant, a beauty pageant nonetheless. What better way to conform the women of tomorrow than to start them young and teach them the shallow ways of society. Teaching them to parade themselves on the stage for the entertainment of their onlooking audience of this profession and the judgment of those who performed before. Sure, there are competitions for beauty for the male counterpart, but is it an instrument to conform them to the set roles and expectations of society? No. Men are actually pushed away from such activities On the other hand, women shown and taught what it means to be “beautiful” such as acting feminine (submissive, dainty, etc.). Many might say beauty is in the inside, but during the competition it is “the best book cover” that is the winning theme.

Secondly is the instruction of manner and grace which we call Cotillion. Yes, Cotillion, the old world technique to train women to acquire the traditional passive image of femininity for showcasing at balls. Yes, there is nothing wrong with learning some social etiquette, but to somewhat take away their individuality and promote dependency on men? This just simply objectifies women in order to preserve overly patriarchal ideologies of the rank of women.

And finally, I come to the mainstream contests of beauty of which we are acquainted with so well. I will use Miss America as a point of discussion. What does such a competition promote? Personality, Talent… No. I have to admit there are talented women in such a contest, but what does it boil down to? Physical appearance overrides the outcome of such competitions more times than not. But that is not just it. These women are role models to the women of tomorrow so what is the message that is being sent when they observe this in the media? “Be Beautiful and I win”, right?  The cycle repeats. The audience becomes the actors.

Logan Young 002

Warning: Proceed With Caution


Recently in the news we all have been seeing that Russia has been enacting certain laws that are anti-lgbt. Because of these new laws anti-laws groups have been surfacing all over. These groups have been coming together to hunt down LGBT persons and forcing them to do horrible acts. One such group is lead by the notorious neo-nazi Maxim Martsinkevich. Martsinkevich is better known by the name Tesak that translates to “The Hatchet”. His anti-lgbt group “Occupy Pedophilia” tracks down and lures gay males through fake dating ads on the Russian version of Facebook to various apartments where he proceeds to humiliate and attack his victims. While Maxim is abusing his victims the entire encounter is filmed then put on the Internet for the world to view. Most of his victims are very young males around the age of 15 years old. He openly expresses that he wants to be able to kill his victims but he is not allowed to so he resorts to methods that are just as horrible as being killed. “Among his favored routines is forcing victims to kneel before him naked as he shaves off their hair and paints a rainbow flag on their scalps. The rainbow flag is the symbol of the international gay rights movement. In other videos, he has forced his victims to imitate oral sex with sex toys, or to call their acquaintances, university professors or employers to embarrass them. On occasion he has poured what looks to be urine over victims’ heads. In one clip, two young men are forced to dance together half naked as one of them weeps.” (Bidder. Web). These groups are being protected under the Russian government because they are seen as doing “Vigilante Justice.” They are keeping the homosexuality and pedophilia away from the children of Russia. The new law that was established states that the propaganda of homosexuality Propaganda is the act of distributing information among minors that 1) is aimed at the creating nontraditional sexual attitudes, 2) makes nontraditional sexual relations attractive, 3) equates the social value of traditional and nontraditional sexual relations, or 4) creates an interest in nontraditional sexual relations. (Bidder. Web). And what is extremely problematic about this new law is that is just does not only effect the citizens of Russia but also any foreign citizen visiting Russia. Any persons of who are LGBT or expected of being LGBT are subjected to various amounts of fines ranging from $125 up to the high amounts of $30,000. And in some of the cases you can also be sentenced to 15 days of jail time or even be deported out of Russia. So I sit here wondering what is going to happen at the Sochi 2014 Winter Olympics to our LGBT athletes? Are they going to have to hide and be on a consist fear and alert of being gay bashed, fined, deported, or sentenced to jail?

Jeremiah Fitch 2010-002

So, the second shift.

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Women have been expected to take care of the house, be caretakers of the children and have dinner on the table for their husband when he gets home from work. (And also to not be angry when hubby doesn’t want to help with the dishes or any of the other chores around the house because he’s had a long day at the office.) This has been a phenomenon since, well since as long as I can remember. (Which isn’t very long considering I’m only 19, but my grandmother has stories and also I Love Lucy and basically al of TV Land.)

But back in “the good ole days,” women weren’t really supposed to have jobs. So this was a little more okay, because taking care of the house and children was their job.

Now women are expected to take on a full-time job, then come home and take care of the children and home. This is quite a bit difficult.

Go to work, give your all for work, come home, give your all to your family, clean the house, take care of your husband, go to bed, wake up, do it again. 

So let’s just think.. That’s basically like having two full-time jobs.

And I know if I were to be part of this second shift phenomenon, I would want some help. Because that’s a lot for one person to be expected to do on their own. Especially to do it well.

Now don’t get me wrong, there are some men out there that are stepping up and lending a helping hand. My father is one of them! And to those men, I applaud you. Grab a friend and teach him your ways.

So let’s get at it, ladies and gentlemen. 

Katie Reed–007