I recently discovered this book while watching a news program. The program outlined that the book was about a woman’s view on how to be an effective wife for her husband. It also claimed that the book advocated a woman’s submissiveness in a relationship so I decided to check it out. I wanted to see just how sexist this book is. I was not disappointed. Oh wait, yeah I was. This book advocates that a woman is nothing more than an object for her husband sort of like a television or a lamp. It expresses the view that a woman is there to ensure that her husband is happy at the expense of her own personal needs and desires. Throughout the book there are numerous points where a woman’s place in the home is discussed and it outlines that a woman should submit to her husband’s wishes. Specifically, that she should not hold down a job unless her husband allows it and that she must be available to her husband at all times. The book also discusses a woman’s role sexually within a marriage. The author reinforces her belief that a woman should submit sexually to a man by making the statement
“Even when I’m exhausted and not really in the mood, if it means a lot to Joe that we connect physically, I’ll say, “I’m not so into it tonight, but let’s go.”
If it’s a hard “no,” I try to be nice about it. Don’t swat him away, or say with a tone, “Leave me alone!” Eventually he will leave you alone at more than you wish he would.”
This statement alone seems terrible enough. However, the book goes so far as to advocate what can only be described as marital rape. Below I’ve included an excerpt from the book that reinforces this.
“Men, I know you think your woman isn’t the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says “no,” turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated.”
This statement completely invalidates a woman’s right to choose whether or not she engages in sexual activity with her spouse and it also validates that men have the right to force their wife at the very least into sexual activity if not more. What does all this information mean? It means that apparently our society still views women as objects instead of people. It establishes the hierarchy within the home and by extension society by limiting women to the home. Now I understand that this view is not universally held but so long as things like this are being published the content can be seen as permissible if not entirely acceptable.
Benjamin Madsen-Larsen 005